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Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant\u2019s Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy, Book Review<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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\"\"Sheryl Sandberg became a model in an arena she would likely never desire. \u00a0A mentor and guide for western women whose wildly popular <\/span>TedTalk<\/span><\/a> \u00a0led to the New York Times bestseller <\/span>Lean In: \u00a0Women, Work, and the Will to Lead<\/span><\/a>,\u00a0<\/span>Sandberg is a powerful figure to whom many people turn for wisdom and guidance in the realms of social media, women\u2019s leadership, and personal growth.<\/span><\/p>\n

But in 2015, many people began to turn to Sandberg for wisdom and guidance through grief. \u00a0<\/span>A <\/span>Facebook post<\/span><\/a>\u00a0created one month after the shocking and untimely death of her husband while they vacationed in Mexico was a treasure of vulnerability. \u00a0Thirty days \u201csadder\u201d and \u201cwiser\u201d after this initial period of mourning, Sandberg shared with millions of readers her entry into the wildness of grief and loss.<\/span><\/p>\n

Two years later, she joined with her friend Adam Grant, a Professor of Psychology at The University of Pennsylvania\u2019s Wharton School of Business, to produce another New York Times bestseller. \u00a0Their <\/span>Option B: \u00a0\u00a0Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy <\/span><\/i>is their \u201cattempt to share what we\u2019ve learned about resilience.\u201d \u00a0Sandberg\u2019s experience of grieving the los of her husband is the main narrative used to weave together Grant\u2019s extensive research on resilience and deeply moving stories of profound resilience he has gathered from across the globe.<\/span><\/p>\n

As a lesson book designed to teach readers how to build resilience Option B is strong; as an inspirational contemplation of the power of resiliency, it is even better.<\/span><\/p>\n

But as a book for the bereaved, it is less beneficial.<\/span><\/p>\n

Building on Martin Seligman\u2019s powerful work on the \u201c3 Ps\u201d of pessimism (personalization, pervasiveness, and permanence), Sandberg and Grant present a multitude of stories detailing people facing atrocious adversities and still building resilience (\u201cthe strength and speed of our response to adversity\u201d). \u00a0They also present some ways in which we can build resiliency. \u00a0\u00a0I appreciate that Sandberg repeatedly introduces issues of economic and social challenges to adversity, owning that her position of privilege affords her resources unavailable to the vast majority of our globe\u2019s population. \u00a0I also admire that Sandberg is donating all of her income from the book to OptionB.Org, a nonprofit initiative to help people build resilience and find meaning in the face of adversity.<\/span><\/p>\n

These are wonderful gifts. \u00a0We can each benefit from learning how to build resiliency.<\/span><\/p>\n

But I am not sure that we need to push ourselves or one another into resiliency during the acute periods of grief. \u00a0As Sandberg\u2019s rabbi instructed her, we must \u201clean into the suck\u201d rather than turn away from it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Most helpful amongst the grief guidance in this volume are:<\/span><\/p>\n